Bonds That Make Us Free (Paperback) *
Author: Terry Warner
Life can be sweet. Our relationships with friends, spouses, colleagues, and family members can be wonderfully rewarding. They can also bring heartache, frustration, anxiety, and anger. We all know the difference between times when we feel open, generous, and at ease with people versus times when we are guarded, defensive, and on edge.
Why do we get trapped in negative emotions when it's clear that life is so much fuller and richer when we are free of them?
Bonds That Make Us Free is a ground-breaking book that suggests the remedy for our troubling emotions by addressing their root causes. You'll learn how, in ways we scarcely suspect, we are responsible for feelings like anger, envy, and insecurity that we have blamed on others. (How many times have you said, "You're making me mad!")
Even though we fear to admit this, it is good news. If we produce these emotions, it falls within our power to stop them. But we have to understand our part in them far better than we do, and that is what this remarkable book teaches.
Because the key is seeing truthfully, the book itself is therapeutic. As you read and identify with the many true stories of people who have seen a transformation in their lives, you will find yourself reflecting with fresh honesty upon your relationships. This will bond you to others in love and respect and lift you out of the negative thoughts and feelings that have held you captive. You will feel your heart changing even as you read.
"It would not be accurate to describe this book as supplying the truths upon which we must build our lives," writes author C. Terry Warner. "Instead it shows how we can put ourselves in that receptive, honest, and discerning condition that will enable us, any of us, to find these truths on our own."
Finding these truths is the key to healing our relationships and coming to ourselves, and Bonds That Make Us Free starts us on that great journey.
Opens up your personal psychology to a new understanding
I read this book around October 2002 when it first came out just having read a reivew of it in BYU Today. I cannot tell you how many issues became less obscure to me as it clearly explained, usually using cases, ways I could think differenly almost in the wink of an eye (a blink is too fast!). I was at a very difficult time in my life where I was being manipulated my situations that I simply fell into from no real fault of my own, except maybe fear and ignorance. Dr. Warner's book opened up the realities and paths--meaning there was a solution at every turn. I used this book literally as my guidebook and it worked! I cannot imagine getting the understanding I needed without it, as it attacks issues of personal deception so elegantly. I got quickly to where I needed to be. Simply amazing--like a bridge spanning a formidable ravine that would otherwise have been impossible to cross, or a hammer where there had only been nails...something like that.
I read this book because other members of my family had and I wanted to see why. The first time I read it, I did not see what was so great about it. While going through a very rough time in my life I picked it up and started reading again. This time I could not put it down. The timing was perfect and helped me recognize things in myself that I was only seeing in other people. Now I can stop my self-betrayal.
This book is a very honest and though provoking look at human relationships. I would recommend this book to anyone--male or female, old or young.
Dr. C. Terry Warner holds a Ph.D. from Yale University and is a professor of philosophy at Brigham Young University. He has been a visiting senior member of Linacre College, Oxford University, and in 1979 founded The Arbinger Institute, a widely respected group that devotes itself to helping organizations, families, and individuals. he and his wife, Susan, have ten children.